Heartbreak
Facts
"Love, in the same perspective as heartbreak, neither one has a correct definition"(1).
~As humans most of us get joy out of making others happy, so when you think your partner is happy because of you it makes you feel joy.
~The more you love someone, the harder the heartbreak will be, once you realize you are no longer making that person happy the heartbreak is worse.
~Typically true love will change you for the better, if you are not a better person, or don't feel like it... its not true love.
~The bigger your love is, the greater sense of purpose you feel. again, the more you make that person happy, the more you will feel needed!
~As humans most of us get joy out of making others happy, so when you think your partner is happy because of you it makes you feel joy.
~The more you love someone, the harder the heartbreak will be, once you realize you are no longer making that person happy the heartbreak is worse.
~Typically true love will change you for the better, if you are not a better person, or don't feel like it... its not true love.
~The bigger your love is, the greater sense of purpose you feel. again, the more you make that person happy, the more you will feel needed!
Physical Pain" Anyone who has ever gone through the emotional pain of a heartbreak, more often than not can express the experience from some type physical pain"(1).
~There has to be some connection between physical and emotional pain, what is it? ~"Pain is the way the mind responds to trouble inside the body"-Alex Zautra ~ when dealing with emotional pain, if srong enough,, it affects the same neurons that control physical pain. Yake a look at the video! ~ When you Feel Depressed your Cortisol levels in your body go up causing lack of apatite.
~Actually experience withdrawal symptoms as if you where addicted to that person. ~After a breakup 7% of people gain weight, and 37% are motivated to exercise, 56% of people are motivated to change. (2). |
Steps Of Coping with Heartbreak1)Denial/Shock- Denying the reality of the situation .notebook scene to the right)
2) Pain/guilt- Underlying pain, your crying nights. 3) Anger- Lashing out. The "why? Why? Why? stage 4)Depression- Realize the amplitude of the situation, get depressed. 5) Acceptance- Upward turn of aditude. ~Elizabeth K. Ross was a psychologist who did a study on the steps of coping after a death, and they are pretty similar to these five steps here! Click the Button below to learn more about her. Could it be that breaking up with someone has the same effects as losing someone to a death? Many people I know have said divorce and breakups feel the same as that person dying, is this true? |